How to stop a visiting dog disturbing the peace, by leading trainer Ben Randall

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published 28 May 2023

Looking after our own dogs and dealing with their various foibles and habits is one thing, but what do we do when a friend or relative’s unruly dog comes to stay and causes all manner of vocal mayhem?

This is exactly the dilemma being faced by J. R. from Lanarkshire, who has written to us via our paws-for-thought@futurenet.com email address to ask how best to cope with his sister’s dog barking incessantly throughout the day when it comes to stay:

Dear Ben, My sister has recently moved from the city to the countryside where I live, and since she came up here, she has got a dog. It’s a nice-natured dog, about a year old, but so noisy and barks ALL the time — nothing like our lovely, calm dog. That’s fine in itself, but the other weekend she left her dog with us while she went away and it drove us (and the neighbours) mad with its constant barking. She's already booked it in with us for three more breaks and we're already worried the same thing will happen again. Any advice?

I can understand where you’re coming from, as this is most definitely not ideal and a big onus must be put on your sister to train her dog to enable its time in your home to be far more positive and relaxing for all concerned.

If this dog is continually barking all the time that it is with you, it will not only stress you and your own dog out — as well as disturb and upset your neighbours — but, as an experienced trainer and behaviourist, it shows me that your sister’s dog cannot be in a happy place in its mind, either.

I’ve been perfecting my BG (Beggarbush) foundation methods for nearly 20 years and understand that even experienced dog owners come up against issues that they are not sure how to handle. However, with a little common sense and patience, it’s possible to train your sister’s dog to be calm and happy around the house in all scenarios — and indeed there's no reason you won't come to look forward to your new regular visitor. You can learn more via @beggarbush on Instagram and my dog-training app (this link will let you get a free trial) or ask me your own question by emailing paws-for-thought@futurenet.com.

When dogs get along, the results can be adorable.

How to stop a dog you're looking after from barking at everything

1. Get familiar with the five-step plan to tackle barking

To begin with, I highly recommend that you read my article on how to stop a dog barking at the door, as it contains lots of hints and tips — and a five-step plan — which will help you quickly and effectively nip this behaviour in the bud. Ideally you'd share it with your sister as well, but... well, families are families, so I'll leave it up to you how to approach that!

2. Identify the triggers and be ready to act

When people say that a dog is 'barking all the time', nine times out of ten they mean that the dog is reacting to things — and from your email, it sounds like this is the case. So pay careful attention and make sure that your sister’s dog is only barking when it hears noises, such as delivery drivers, or postmen coming to the door, or when she sees or hears your neighbours out in their gardens? If this is the case, then, whenever she hears or sees something that triggers the barking, we need to act — which brings us to step three...

3. Teach the 'leave' and 'in' command

Your sister is leaving her dog with you regularly, and for days at a time, you're going to have to take the initiative and train the dog so that it doesn't disturb your household. You need to teach the ‘leave’ and the ‘in’ command, whereby we teach the dog to go to her bed every time anyone comes to the door, or whenever she is disturbed by anything.

Then, if she does this correctly every time without barking, and once the distraction has left the environment, we approach the dog within its space or bed and reward them with a piece of kibble and calm praise.

If you teach this new behaviour carefully and consistently, the dog will soon start to think: ‘Someone’s at the door or walking past, I can hear a noise — how quickly can I get to my bed in a calm, relaxed way and patiently wait for the distraction to go, so I will get my reward for acting in a more measured and positive way.’

'So... just waiting for my treat... any time you like... no rush...'

4. Keep going, as it'll get easier with time — and make sure your sister is on the same page

In time, your sister’s dog will become far less stressed and more relaxed in your home environment, which will make her visits a much more pleasurable experience for all involved.

However, this is something that your sister needs to focus on every day in her own home, too, so that she can reset her dog’s training foundations.

For more detailed advice about Ben Randall’s positive, reward-based and proven BG training methods, one-to-one training sessions, residential training or five-star dog-boarding at his BGHQ in Herefordshire, telephone 01531 670960 or visit www.ledburylodgekennels.co.uk. For a free seven-day trial of the Gundog app, which costs £24.99 a month or £249.99 a year, visit www.gundog.app/trial

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Ben Randall is an award-winning dog trainer based in Herefordshire, who uses positive, reward-based training methods to help dogs learn patience, steadiness and drive. Ben has been named Dog trainer of the Year three times (in 2011, 2012 and 2017), and is a Kennel Club-approved A Panel Judge, who made history when winning the British Cocker Championships back-to-back in 2011 and 2012 — the first time the feat had been achieved in nearly 40 years — with Field Trial Champion Heolybwlch Fatty. Irrespective of your dog's breed or whatever behavioural issues you might be facing, as a self-taught dog psychologist, Ben employs only the most up-to-date training methods in order to get the best out of any dog in a short time. Having honed his own highly effective Beggarbush (BG) training foundations for more than 30 years, Ben helps owners to understand how their dogs think, so they can achieve a much better relationship and bond. His aim is for everyone to have a happy dog that will walk to heel, sit, stay and ignore distractions, as well as come back when it's called and be relaxed in the home. Known for his proven, positive and reward-based methods, Ben has trained the dogs of many celebrities, including David Beckham and Gordon Ramsay. Find out more about him and his methods at ledburylodgekennels.co.uk.