How to look after a dog who's scared of you, by expert trainer Ben Randall

Most people who grew up around dogs and consider themselves ‘dog people’ quickly get on brilliantly with other people’s canine companions, creating their own bond of affection and respect. So it can be alarming and dispiriting when things don’t go smoothly, as this week’s reader explained in her email to me at paws-for-thought@futurenet.com.

As well as honing my Beggarbush dog training methods over the last few decades, my family and I run a 5* luxury boarding kennel in Herefordshire. We constantly have dogs staying with us both for short and long-term stays, and some dogs — just like some people — get very nervous when they’re entering a new environment. Settling them in isn’t always easy— and honestly, it sounds to me like you’re on the right track. You’re essentially doing what I’d suggest: staying calm and positive.

That said, there are some more steps that I think will really help — things that I’ve learnt and am happy to pass on. To help you — and anyone else reading this — I’ll walk you through the steps that I use to help dogs get nervous pets to trust you’re looking after other people’s dogs.

What to do if you’re looking after someone’s dog during the day, or overnight

If you have a dog in your car just for the day, or overnight, it doesn’t really give you enough time to build the sort of trust and relationship you’ll need to nurture. All you can do is keep things calm and positive, so that each time the dog comes back to you, its confidence — and yours — will grow.

That said, if looking after a particular dog for these short stints is going to be a regular thing, ask its owner if they can leave it with you for longer. Having the dog for a few nights will help you build up a better relationship and to gain more trust in you... which leads nicely on to the next part of this advice.

How to look after a dog who’s staying with you for a few days

When a new dog arrives at our boarding kennels who is nervous or shy, I start by asking him to come and go to the toilet. With calm and relaxed encouragement — and normally a lead on — I show the dog what I’m asking him to do.

This alone is often enough, after three or four days and multiple repeats, the dog soon trusts me and comes out of his shell. It’s actually something I see happen almost every day, and it’s a wonderful privilege enjoying watching these dogs start to get more confident every time I come up to them.

How to look after a dog who’s staying with you for a week or more

In your case, your friend’s dog is staying for 10 days — and that really gives you an opportunity to try and keep everything as structured as possible. From walks and feeding to toilet times and grooming, keep everything to a routine: the same time every day, and the same way of doing things, and (as you’ve already noticed) avoid sudden movements, noises or anything that could worry him. Dogs love routines, and once he gets used to them, there will be no surprises for him — and he will be much more likely to really start to relax.

Stick with it and you’ll get there — one way or another

Stick with this and I believe that within 3-4 days you’ll really see a difference — but be prepared to keep going if you need to, and for those that have other dogs in the house, a degree of separation can help too.

Take as an example a dog I had staying with me a while ago who was super-nervous of new environments. This was a rescue dog, so God knows what he’d been through in his life. Just one example: he would eat his food if he was alone in his kennel, but the moment anyone came near him, he wouldn’t be able to carry on eating.

In the end it took special treatment to settle him in. I had the dog in the office with me during the day, and both his feeds were done in the office, away from the busier area around kennels. I moved his day bed fairly close to the lounge chair that I sit in, with the bowl of food on the floor close to me and the bed.

It was slow-going, but we got there. After a few days, the dog was happy to eat close to me, and even allowed me to stroke him while he was eating. Another week later and the dog was confident and trusting around me — and best of all, he’s now a regular visitor, happily coming here and super confident the moment he sees us at his home-from-home.

For more detailed advice about Ben Randall’s positive, reward-based and proven BG training methods, one-to-one training sessions, residential training or five-star dog-boarding at his BGHQ in Herefordshire, telephone 01531 670960 or visit www.ledburylodgekennels.co.uk. For a free seven-day trial of the Gundog app, which costs £24.99 a month or £249.99 a year, visit www.gundog.app/trial

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