39 things a gentleman simply must do before he dies

We’ll all end up on our deathbeds eventually, but it would be nice to make it there with no regrets.

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Here at Country Life, we pride ourselves on our ability to know a gentleman when we see one, which makes putting together our annual Gentleman's Life supplement — our essential guide to all things chivalrous — an absolute treat for us as well as, hopefully, our readers.

Among our usual pearls of sartorial wisdom, you'll find this aspirational bucket list of all the experiences we believe a true gentleman should have before he breathes his last in order to live a life less ordinary. Because after all, this is still Country Life – you can't expect us to take it all too seriously.

1. Have a child named after you. Or, at the very least, a former flame’s dog

2. Learn to foxtrot

3. Open an expensive bottle of Champagne for no real occasion – with a sword

4. Make an anonymous donation

5. Learn to pilot a plane or fly a helicopter (or both, if you’re feeling flashy)

6. Plant a tree

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7. Take part in the father’s race at your child’s sports day

8. Shear a sheep and help to deliver a lamb, calf or foal

9. Learn another language (and seduce someone using it)

10. Have a bespoke suit made on Savile Row

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11. Run a marathon

12. Write a letter or give a speech that moves someone to tears

13. Train a dog – properly

14. Cook a meal entirely from produce you have either caught, killed or grown

15. Dye your hair an outrageous colour

16. Buy (or, at least, bid for) an entire barrel of Burgundy

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17. Quote a poem, both spontaneously and in a relevant situation

18. Climb a mountain or sail an ocean

19. Design a piece of jewellery for your beloved

20. Hit a six

21. Break up a fight using your wit, not your fists

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22. Have one of your children admit you were right about something

23. Risk a month’s salary on a bet

24. Buy a one-way ticket to an exotic destination

25. Collect a library that requires a ladder

26. Ski a black run

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27. Construct a Lego Batmobile (or a castle, depending how you roll)

28. Plough a field, preferably on your own tractor

29. Write a song for someone

30. Make the news for something non-scandalous

31. Read War and Peace – and the complete set of ‘Harry Potter’ books

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Hadrian's Wall from the top of Hot Bank Crags; in the distance is Winshield Crags.
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32. Walk the length of Hadrian’s Wall

33. Buy a very silly car (we’ll let you define silly)

34. Rescue someone, be it a fair maiden or a lost child

35. Own a pair of smoking slippers

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36. Take a godchild to their first Michelin-starred restaurant

37. Demolish something substantial, either with a JCB or with explosives

38. Sleep beneath the stars

39. Get married – at least once


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Victoria Marston
Victoria joined Country Life in 2013, having previously worked at Horse & Hound. After graduating with first-class honours in English Language and Literature from Brighton University, she went on to complete an MA in Magazine Journalism at the University of Sheffield.